let them be wrong about you
proving them wrong isn’t worth losing yourself
Life got easier the day I stopped clearing up rumours and trying to correct every misunderstanding about me. I realised I was wasting time explaining myself to people who never cared to truly know me in the first place. Letting them believe whatever they wanted gave me a kind of peace I used to think only came from being understood.
People will think what they want, no matter how much truth you hand them. They will judge you based on their own assumptions, build entire stories about you from single moments, and speak confidently on things they barely know. Explaining yourself over and over doesn’t fix that. You can’t change someone’s mind when they’ve already decided who you are. So I stopped trying. Let them keep their blurry, crooked version of me if that helps them sleep.
I don’t owe anyone my energy just because they’re curious. Let them wonder why I stopped showing up. Let them decide I’m rude for having boundaries, selfish for choosing solitude, or cold for no longer making myself smaller. I am not wrong for growing. I am not wrong for walking away from what drains me. I am not wrong for choosing peace over pleasing.
Not everyone is meant to understand you. You are not made for everyone, and everyone is not meant for you. Carrying the weight of being seen the “right” way by everyone will only break you from the inside. Wanting to be understood by all will keep you stuck, exhausted, and disconnected from who you truly are.
The moment you let go of that weight, you feel lighter, freer. Life opens up, and you finally breathe easy. You start living..not as someone who must explain herself again and again, but as someone who simply exists. People will whisper. They will assume. They will believe what they want, even if it’s not the truth.
So let them judge. Let them be wrong. It has never been your burden to make them understand.
Pri this side,
Whoever you are, I hope today has been kind to you!
If you’re reading this, thank you for sharing a small piece of time with me.
If my words resonate, you can buy me a coffee or subscribe to walk this journey a little longer ♡
Your support keeps me writing, healing, and sharing ★
That last line is so powerful. Honestly, if you have to keep explaining people how their actions have hurt you repeatedly, maybe you need to realize that they don't want to change. Distance yourself from them, see how often they check up on you. Let them wonder what they did to lose the easy access to you.
This was the most important lesson I learnt last year. Life's been good, ever since.
Kudos!
There is something so liberating in realizing that people will meet you as far as they have met themselves. It's almost like a natural filter in discerning who is worth my energy and who is not simply based on whether they do hold the capability to truly see me for who I am. That's the true power of letting people be wrong about you -you stop wasting energy proving your worth and start reserving it for those who already see it. Thank you for writing! 🤍